Make room for future wishes
Conversations about future care can happen slowly, over time. The aim is to understand the person’s values and connect them with appropriate professional guidance.
Ask permission to begin
Choose a calm moment and explain why the conversation matters to you. Let the person decide whether now is a good time.
“I’d like to understand your wishes so I can support you. Is there something you’d want us to know?”Listen for what matters most
Ask about comfort, independence, relationships, culture, and beliefs. People’s priorities may change, so treat this as an ongoing conversation.
Bring questions to the right professional
Use the National Institute on Aging worksheets to prepare questions for a health care professional. For legal documents and decision-making authority, seek advice specific to the person’s state and circumstances.
Know where the plan is kept
With permission, note where completed documents are stored and who should know about them. Keep the actual documents in a secure place.
One thing to remember
Listening to values comes before choosing forms.
This is a general planning guide, not an assessment or professional advice. Questions about health, legal authority, coverage, and finances should be discussed with an appropriately qualified professional. Official links checked October 23, 2026.